Do you hate asking for money? Do you enter a discovery or strategy session thinking “OMG, what if they are interested and I have to ask them to sign up”? What will I do? I hate asking for money.
And then if you do manage to get through the call and that moment arrives, do you fumble and mumble and almost talk them out of working with you?
Ok, that is slightly dramatised but I know it comes close to how many coaches and entrepreneurs feel, even before they begin the discovery conversation. So with that mindset, they move forward and wonder why the prospective client doesn’t sign up.
Or worse still, they lower their fees or offer a ridiculous discount, and even then they don’t do it with confidence or conviction. There's second guessing, self-limiting beliefs and a host of other unhelpful mindsets going on.
Odd isn’t it, that otherwise confident, savvy solopreneurs come out in a sweat when it comes to asking for the business and simply HATE asking for money. Let's change that.
It begins with the mindset. Why would you be hesitant about asking for money if you believed in what you do? Makes no sense does it? So do we assume that you don’t believe in yourself or that you don’t believe you can give the client what they want, OR something else?
I’m guessing it’s the something else and believe me you are not alone in this. The 'something else' could be an incident that occurred when you were a child or an experience you had at any time of your life. And strangely enough, it doesn’t have to be related to either money or confidence.
It’s the MEANING that we give to something that is important here. Two people can watch a movie, and one is terrified out of her wits, and the other one thinks it’s funny. It all depends on the personal experiences and influences they have had and the meaning they attach to those experiences.
It’s related to MINDSET. Your mindset comprises of the thoughts, feelings and beliefs you have about an event or subject. When the Meaning and Mindset combine they can be incredibly powerful and when you include your BELIEFS you have the rocket fuel for the actions you take or don’t take.
Hating asking for money is a good example of what I have just described. If you want to change that then you can look back to a time in your life when you have successfully asked for something (doesn't have to be money) and notice what you did differently, how you felt, what you were saying to yourself at the time.What did you believe about that? You can then tap into that gathered information when asking for money. Change your mindset, change your results. I know that sounds simple, and it is. Try it. It may take a few practice sessions, persevere.
It’s also important to think about what you do for clients as a service professional and how you would be doing them a disservice if you don’t present yourself at your best. It isn’t about you. Be a model for them. Once you have mastered your ‘craft’, it’s almost a duty to share it, and if you want to do that as a professional then you need to charge a healthy fee. Believing that you 'deserve' that fee is key.
Decide to do whatever it takes. Whether it’s updating your skills or creating more useful mindsets. BTW, you are never without a mindset so you might as well decide which ones you want to wear - and when. Your mind is the most powerful tool you have, and it's a free resource. Makes sense to use it, right? I'm not saying you'll begin to LOVE it, but I'm pretty sure you'll no longer hate asking for money.
What is your mindset as you read this? Curious? Bored? Hopeful? Excited? Try a few on and notice how your breathing and body language changes. Learn to use them. Practice using them. Begin to notice the different mindsets you experience as you go about your day. Get familiar with them.
Become the fearless, savvy, confident and competent biz owner you've always wanted to be. Stand in your power and genius and allow yourself to be exactly where you are now with the intention of changing, improving and growing into an even better you.
Creating a checklist of successful mindsets is a great start. Your new clients (and your bank account) will love you for it!
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Joan Bell - NLP MP
Biz, Marketing and Mindset Coach